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They Said it Would Never Last

Today is our thirty fifth anniversary of the day we got married. I know, it's really just another day when you're oldsters, but in this day & age, being married more than a short time is truly an accomplishment. It's kind of sad that a long marriage is a rare thing, isn't it?

I value our marriage. I cherish my husband & I know he cherishes me... I took those vows VERY seriously 35 years ago. When I make a promise, I do my very best to keep it. My word is my word... SOooo I plunged forward, to that alter, 35 years ago, said I would & I have ever since.

I remember when my brothers found out we were gonna get married (I had 4 brothers). A couple of them begged me not to do it. My brother, Verle (he passed away 7 years ago) was pleading with me on the phone from across the country. He did not want me to get married, because he thought I was way too young... Well, I may have only been 17 on the outside, but on the inside, I was much, much older (& That's another whole story).

I knew in my heart, that God had taken me clear across the country & planted me in front of this guy. Not one single doubt was in my mind. Trust me, when I tell you, I was SO not searching for love when we met. Quite the opposite. He wasn't looking for love either... BUT when we met, it truly was love at first sight & though we did not speak of it out loud to each other, or to anyone else, we both knew in our hearts that we were "the one" for each other. We had something very special from day one... God had planted a spark between us... & We listened.

People who know me, know that I jump in head first to most things I do. Whether I know what I'm doing or not, I will make my very best attempt at whatever I'm doing. I will always "try" to be the best at what I do. I've said it before. I'm an overachiever. I'm stubborn. I want to do good. I do not want to fail. Really, who does? Plus, I am not in the least bit selfish.

We were both in agreement when we got married, that divorce was not in our vocabulary. So many people these days go into marriage, with the mindset that, "If it doesn't work out, we can just get a divorce". To me, that is like pre-planning your divorce. If we have a problem, we work it out. That's what marriage is. Working together, to build our two separate lives into one.

When I got married, I had a goal (probably more than one). I wanted to be THE BEST wife "ever". We said I do & then I did & I've still been doing it since day one. In my mind, "I am" the best wife possible (for him).

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I had great role models.

My 88 yr old parents have been married 67 years

& still going strong.

Their love for each other was (& still is) very apparent, just like I wanted ours to be.

Married almost 67 years. You can see their love.

Nothing is absolutely perfect... Do you think people go into marriage with unreal expectations? Why do people get married to someone they don't like being around? Every single day is a work in progress. You cannot be lazy in marriage. Both husband & wife are important & need to be made to feel like it.

I know, not everyone makes the right choices & things do happen... I'm just thankful that's not us.

Whenever one of us is going somewhere away from the other, we ALWAYS give each other a kiss & hug good-bye. In fact, we will stand in the driveway or doorway, waving. Every. Single. Time.... You never know what will happen & at least we said good-bye.

We have synchronized sleeping. When he rolls over, I roll over & when I roll over, he rolls over. We wake up next to each other "EVERY" single day & try our best to make it a good day... We have had a lot of bad days, of that I am certain, but we ALWAYS got through them, never giving up on each other... I can't think of anyone I'd rather have snoring next to me every night. I love this man!

Mostly... We are faithful. To each other.

With faith in God.

True love holds on tight. Forever. Happiness in marriage is not a result of random charm, or meeting & marrying the perfect person. It's a result of consistent, intentional choices, that say, I still choose & value you... A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other... A successful marriage requires falling in love many times with the same person... At the end of the day, you can either focus on what is tearing you apart, or you can focus on what's keeping you together.

Every love story is beautiful, but ours is my favorite.

Here's to the next thirty five years!

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